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Introduction to Self-Praise

Self-praise is difficult.

We’ve all been there. We’re sitting in front of the mirror, looking ourselves up and down, and picking out every little thing we don’t like. Whether it’s our hair, skin, weight, or our outfit. Focusing on everything that we want to change is easy. But what if we flipped the script? What if we focused instead, on everything we appreciate about ourselves?

Could you handle that?

It’s just a change in perspective. The transformation comes from changing the way you think of things. In this case, changing the way you see yourself.

We could call it mirror-transformation.
What happens when we flip it? Flip the switch.

Who the hell is looking out at me from the mirror? What lovely eyes. Where did the straggly hair go?

That’s the benefit of self-praise.

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The Science of Self-Praise

It turns out that there’s a science to back up the power of positive self-talk. A study published in the journal Psychological Science found that people who engaged in positive self-talk before completing a challenging task had better results than those who didn’t.


In the study, participants were asked to complete a puzzle while either repeating a positive phrase (“I’m a capable person”) or a neutral phrase (“I am not judging myself”). The researchers found that those who repeated the positive phrase persisted in the puzzle and persevere despite the setbacks. 


In another study published in the journal Frontiers in Psychology, researchers found that self-compassion—defined as “being understanding and kind towards oneself during difficult times”—was linked with increased psychological well-being and decreased anxiety and depression. In other words, people who can offer themselves compassion and understanding are better able to thrive mentally and emotionally. 


Proving once again how important a positive mindset is to our well-being. 

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Self-Praise Can Change Your Life

We’ve been there before. We work hard day in and day out, often sacrificing our personal lives for our professional ones. We strive to be the best we can be, but sometimes it feels like we are stuck in a rut. Does that sound familiar?

If this sounds familiar, it may be time for you to practice self-praise. Self-praise is the act of showing yourself compassion and appreciation. It is recognizing your worth and taking the time to care for yourself, emotionally and physically. 

When you practice self-praise, it has a profound impact on your life. Not only will you feel happier and more fulfilled, but you will also be more productive and successful in your personal and professional life. So if you are looking for a way to change your life, start by practicing self-praise. It just might be the best decision you ever make.

How To Incorporate Positive Self-Talk Into Your Life

Now that we know the science behind why positive self-talk is so powerful: let’s talk about how we can incorporate positive self-talk into our lives. 


Positive affirmation is one way to do this. Affirmations are positive statements about ourselves that we repeat regularly. For example, affirmations like “I am worthy,” “I am enough,” “I am strong,” “I am loved,” and “I am valued.” are powerful examples of self-talk. 


Another way to practice positive self-talk is by keeping a gratitude journal. Every day, take a few minutes to write down three things you’re grateful for—big or small. Use the question, what went well today? Martin Seligman developed this exercise to help us reframe negative thinking into positive thinking. Maybe you’re grateful for your partner’s support, your best friend’s sense of humor, or your dog’s cuddles. Whatever it is, taking time each day to reflect on the good in your life can help shift your focus from negative to positive. Part of the exercise is to explain why this situation happened or why it is important to you. 


The next time you find yourself critiquing your appearance or dwelling on something you don’t like about yourself, try pausing for a moment and saying something kind instead.  


Use the Jay Shetty idea. Spot, Stop, Swap.


Spit the negative. Stop the negative by swaping it out for a positive. 


The best way to use self-praise is to create a patter that you use over and over to retrain you brain to see your beautiful eyes and yoru character inducing scar over your left eye. 


Your Self-Praise Patter (Patter is a specialized lingo like a series of affirmations said rapid fire.)


Below are 21 positive self-talk affirmations. 


Read the list and pick out ten of your favorites.

Write each one of those on an index card. (Use blank, sturdy index cards). Colored ones are good. 

You will end up with a card deck of ten self-praise affirmations.

Each morning, as you enjoy breakfast or a coffee, read through all ten affirmations.

When you finish, shuffle the deck so the next time you read those affirmations they are read in a slightly different order. This keeps them from getting stale.

Read them again, at mid day and then again at night.

If you think of a new self-praise affirmation, write it on an index card and replace one of the other cards in your deck.

Over time you will replace the originals with new, more powerful ones.


Repetition and consistency are the super-powers of positive affirmations. 


21 Self-Praise Positive Affirmations Video

21 Self-Praise Positive Affirmations


  1. I choose to see the world in a positive light every single day. I am inspired by all the good I see. 
  2. I am confident. I trust myself to always act kindly and lovingly toward myself.
  3. Positive people flock to me. I am empowered by their examples.
  4. I am enough, I am enough, I am enough. I use this mantra every day.
  5. Positive energy imbues my life with light, love, and self-compassion.
  6. I stay present, living in this eternal, present moment. Wow!
  7. I am a miracle. My life is miraculous. I love the magic of a positive life,
  8. I am creating a self-praise patter to remind me that I am everything I need to be.
  9. I recognize my happiness is a by-product of my positive self-praise.
  10. Every morning I wake up energized by all the good I know is coming my way today,
  11. I use my positive self-talk as a shield against negativity. I am a good-news bear. 
  12. I am a virus of positivity, infecting others with my example of self-praise and self-love. 
  13. I am the radiant light of positive energy, I delight in lighting the world with good thoughts. 
  14. In the mirror, I see beauty and radiance reflected back at me. I am beautiful, sexy, dynamic, and brilliant.
  15. I release any negative thoughts into the air. I love them, let them go, and understand they are not me. 
  16. I am thriving just the way I am. Look out world!
  17. I love my body by exercising it and feeding it good healthy food. I live in balance with nature. 
  18. My practice of positive self-talk washes away the past and fills my future with opportunity and joy.
  19. I am delighted with myself. I love what I do. I love what I see, and I love what I am becoming. I am filled with peace and tranquility, 
  20. I always choose to reach for a more positive way of looking at myself and my world,
  21. I am in the flow of the universe, I am unfolding into my beautiful, exceptional self.


Next Steps

You have the tools to lift yourself up through self-praise. Of course, having the tools means nothing unless you use them.

This is what separates the victors from the victims: the will to do the work.

It’s our human nature to resist doing the work. We will find every excuse not to do the work.

Affirmations don’t work.
I don’t have the time.
It’s too late to try to change now.
I’m afraid it won’t work,
I’m afraid it will work.
Reading hurts my eyes,
I’ve got too many other things to do.

Add in your personal favorite excuse, Yea, that one.

If you download the affirmations sheet and create the card deck as we suggest, it will take 5 minutes to read through the ten affirmations you choose out of the 21.

If you read them at least three times a day, you commit to 15 minutes of work… to change how you look at things…which means you actually change your life.

For 15 minutes a day.
Oh, and you have to be consistent. Yep. 15 minutes every day for at least 21 days. That’s how long it takes to create a habit.

The biggest barrier is resistance. Steven Pressfield wrote a whole book about how we resist.

It’s called The War of Art.
I highly recommend you read it.

I created a PDF copy to make it easy for you to hold these affirmations in your hand.

Elsewhere there is a link to our monthly bonus mini-report,

I’ve offered you the tools.

That’s as far as I can take you.
It’s your next step,

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Nicholas Grimshawe.

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