Introduction: Self Growth

 Self-Growth is the final aspect of Self-Love we have been exploring over the last 6 weeks. 

Graphic for all the elements of self love including self-esteem

Self-Growth strengthens all the other aspects of Self-Love.

Focusing on your own personal growth enhances self-worth, self-esteem, self-awareness, self-respect, and self-care.

Again we go back to the Buddhist idea of Interbeing where working in one area strengthens all other areas.

I will come back to this idea in the next steps section of this post.

What is Self-Growth?


Self-Growth is a commitment to learning and growing as a person. You may have heard the terms personal growth or personal development used instead. For our purposes, you can use the terms interchangeably.

.As an example, self-growth  means developing new skills, attitudes, actions, or habits and practices that have a positive impact on your life and increase your overall well-being and sense of self-love.


Self Growth Possibilities

  • Learning to  control unwanted emotions
  • Developing a growth mindset
  • Learning how to be resilient and persistent
  • Communication with your body.
  • Learning what you can change and what you can’t
  • Developing a Deeper Sense of Self
  • Overcoming procrastination
  • Learning your triggers
  • Clarity of purpose and vision

Now before I go on you might be interested in my Be Inspired page where you will find my Sunday Affirmations each week. Click on the button below and give us a thumbs up to join other Be-Inspired Enthusiasts.

Your 9 Essential Questions on Self-Growth

Self-Growth is the primary goal of a human being. 

Asking effective questions can help to facilitate your development as a human being. A good question is one that provides a useful answer.  

One of my most successful strategies for asking questions is to pose the question just before I go to sleep. 

During the night the brain goes to work on finding the answer.

Then in the morning ask the question again and see what answers have arisen in your subconscious.

Ask yourself these questions to enhance your development:

  1. What is the most important skill I’m lacking? Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Our weaknesses are often responsible for limiting our personal growth and success. There are advantages to being well-rounded.

    Here are the steps to follow.

    Go to the website
    2 Create an account.
    3 Go to Questionnaires Tab
    4 Find and do the VIA Survey of Character Strengths Assessment
    5 Write down your top five strengths and keep them nearby.

  • You might be great with spreadsheets, but poor at meeting new people. Some of us are very persuasive while others have great creativity.
  • What do you feel you’re lacking in your life? Which skill can most help you fill that void?
  1. How do I get in my own way? Do you ever sabotage your own efforts? It’s possible to fear success. After all, gaining something often means giving up something else. It’s not easy to examine this part of ourselves, but the benefit is immense.
  2. If I could go back in time, what advice would I give my 18-year-old self? Hindsight is 20/20, but the mistakes you’ve made in the past are probably still occurring. Think about the choices you think you should’ve made as an 18-year-old. They will provide insight into your current situation.

  3. What are my greatest strengths? Make a list of your greatest strengths. How can you apply them to your life? Our weaknesses might hold us back, but our strengths can determine how high we can rise. Weaknesses are like a boat anchor while strengths are like the motor. See the link in number one for a very good strengths assessment.
    • Ask your friends and family for their opinions, too. But with this caution. Ask only positive, trusted friends
  1. What am I able to control in my life?

    Worrying about things that are outside of your control is a waste of time. Focus on the aspects you’re able to influence. Apply your thoughts, time, and effort accordingly.

  2. What do I want to stand for? How do you want to be thought of at the end of your life? Are you currently living in a manner that supports that vision?
    • Think about who you want to be, which could be quite different than what you want to be. This is an elementary step but critical. If you haven’t decided what or who you want to be you can’t achieve it.
  1. If I could accomplish one great thing in my life, what would it be? You probably have several options for your life, and it’s not always easy to choose.
    • Think about the one accomplishment that would mean the most to you. Then make a list of realistic steps you can take to achieve it.
  1. What is the biggest limit I’ve imposed upon myself? It might be the belief that you’re not smart enough to finish college or socially astute enough to attract a wonderful spouse. There’s a 99.999% chance you haven’t worked hard enough to accurately determine what your limits truly are.
    • How can you set yourself free from this limit?
  1. Whom or what do I blame for my challenges? Sure, your parents made a lot of mistakes. Maybe your boss is a jerk. Regardless of the source of your challenges, it’s your responsibility to deal with them. This knowledge is actually great news because now you see that you don’t have to rely on someone else in order to move forward!

Questions are a useful tool. The answers can give you greater insight and clarity.

If you’re feeling lost or frustrated, utilize the power of questions to continue your self-growth journey.

I’ve included a wonderful video on Journaling to help you with these questions

Four-Step Self-Growth Plan

Celebrating the Joy of Self-GrowthSelf-Growth demands that we focus on continual personal and spiritual improvement.

This can be a combinate of informal or formal learning.

As an example, I am learning a new language Spanish, along with constant reading, workshops, and the like.

But pursuing personal growth we challenge our minds to stay sharp and focused. We push ourselves outside of our comfort zones. Learning is a powerful motivational tool.

Self-Growth means that we have developed a self-growth set which means we believe in our ability to grow and learn new information and expand our sense of well0being.

The health benefits of lifelong learning include the lessening of cognitive decline, a healthier brain, and a feeling of well-being and happiness including healthy relationships and connections.

My Simple Four-Step Self-Growth


1 Get clear about a skill or ability you would like to improve. Working on the 9 essential questions will help you with this step.


2 Get clear on your why. Simon  Sinek’s  book Start With Why  is  an  excellent place to begin.  

3 Create your action plan of study.

One of my items is to take a video editing course. And my first action step is to find the right course for me.

Keep the plan simple. Start with one objective and create a plan to get it done. Remember small steps and the best steps.

4 Congratulate yourself for your progress.

We spend too much time criticizing ourselves and often forget to congratulate ourselves.

Adding a small reward doubles the motivation to go for the next item on your personal growth list.

Desserts as a reward

“Becoming is better than being. The fixed mindset does not allow people the luxury of becoming. They have to already be.”

Next Steps

We have come full circle. All the aspects of self-love have been covered.

Here is the complete list of articles for expanding your self-love.


The Six Articles in the Series on Self Love


Build Self-Esteem in 3 Key areas for Growth


Why Self Awareness is the Vital Ingredient in Self-Love


Your Self-Worth is Not a Financial Formula


Self-Praise 4 Powerful Ways to Thrive


Self-Respect: Your 7 Responsibilities


Self-Care Habits for a Magnificent You



Full Circle of Self-Love


This brings us back to the concept of Interbeing and how to use this series to expand and enhance your ability to love yourself.

You only need to take one aspect of the circle of self-love to start the process of improving every other area. 

The idea is not to get overwhelmed by the abundance of action steps, but to choose one and start. Get comfortable using that step then find another area to work on and use one of those suggestions.

The important thing is to get into action and apply the ideas we’ve discussed over the last six weeks.

What aspect will you start with? Let me know. Email me at I’d love to chat with you.

Nick Grimshawe


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