Introduction For Self-Esteem Practices You Can Start Immediately

Self-Esteem practices are not about changing someone’s opinion of you but about changing how you evaluate yourself. 

Granted we’ve all been on the receiving end of verbal and even physical abuse. 

My dad had a brutal way of putting me down in front of friends and family. They were painful and devastating to my fragile idea of my self-esteem.

We often feel justified in holding on to these examples as a way of explaining why she suffers from a lack of self-esteem.

However, you do a disservice to yourself and to the people you blame for your existing condition now.

I would do an injustice to my father for holding onto to these past emotional upsets because they don’t acknowledge the change in our relationship as I grew up,

What are you choosing to hold onto?

If you are choosing to hold onto other people’s opinions of your self-worth and allowing these opinions to evaluate yourself you are doing nothing more than hurting yourself.

As I heard on a recent Mindset Mentor by Rob Dial, we have a way of abusing ourselves in a way that no one else can.

Therefore, the purpose of these practices is to begin to change your internal dialog about your self-worth.



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7 Self-Esteem Practices

1 Use Positive Affirmations

In the last post, I created a video on Ten Positive Self-Esteem Affirmations. Click to watch the video here. The video also offers helpful tips on how to use affirmations for the best results. Challenge: Watch the video three times a day for 7 days. 

2 Practice gratitude:

This is a tough assignment. It’s about going back to some of those moments in your life when your self-esteem reached its lowest levels and then journaling with the perspective of hindsight the positives that came from that situation. When you are truly grateful you come to understand that everything you’ve experienced has created the person you are now. You also come to the realization that changing even one thing in your life could change everything in your life now. Assignment one: Journal about these moments. Assignment 2 go watch some episodes of “Travellers” or The Umbrella Academy to understand what can happen when you change the past,    

3. Accept Compliments Graciously

This is one of the hardest self-esteem practices to learn. We use false modesty to hide our discomfort when compliments come our way. We feel unworthy of them. The best practice here is to stand back, take a deep breath and say thank you, I appreciate that. This takes self-awareness and self-compassion. Assignment: Say to yourself every time you receive a compliment this short simple affirmation: I am worthy of this complement. 

4 Stop Trash Talkin’ to Yourself.  

Step outside your head for a moment and listen to a conversation you are having with yourself. Pay attention to your abusive dialog with yourself. Become aware of the man or woman in your head constantly arguing with you, putting you down, belittling your achievements, your looks, your body image, your mental and emotional states. Stay alert for these conversations, then change the subject to a positive one. Reverse the negativity to positivity, the abuse to admiration. Start interjecting your good points. Assignment: Listen to that self-critical voice in your head, and write one positive affirmation for every negative thing you are saying about yourself. Assignment 2. Go to Youtube, look up Jay Shetty, and search for a video on self-esteem. 


 5. Release Perfection.

Perfection is a false god. Holding yourself up to the mirror perfection is a pointless exercise. Not one single person on this planet is perfect…not one. Learn to your beautiful imperfections. Assignment: Go watch this YouTube Video  Vivo Go Shows All of Me. Sing it to you.

6 The Domino Effect.

This is a recommendation I heard on a podcast by Rob Dial called The Universe Wants to Make Your Dreams Come True. He called it small win stacking. It means to pay attention to and create as many small wins in each day as you possibly can. These are micro wins: the alarm went off and you got up, make your bed, smile, compliment others, remembering to do something for yourself, all the little tiny wins we usually don’t notice. They all stack up to a day in which you won. Thus you boost your own self-esteem.

How many small wins can you stack in one day? Assignment: Keep a score on your calendar each day for a week. 

7 Do a good qualities inventory.  

Create a list of your good qualities, values, behaviors. You can do this in the form of simple positive affirmations.  I am kind. I am intelligent. I am caring. I am honest. I love to read. I love walking. 

Put as many things as you can on your list.

Make it sexy by adding photos of those qualities. It’s like creating a vision board for self-esteem. 

You don’t have to get as fancy as this but you can get a good idea.

“I had to grow to love my body. I did not have a good self-image at first. Finally, it occurred to me, I’m either going to love me or hate me. And I chose to love myself. Then everything kind of sprung from there. Things that I thought weren’t attractive became sexy. Confidence makes you sexy.”

Self-Esteem Pratices Summary

I’ve given you a list of 7 practices.

  1. Use Positive Affirmations
  2. Practice Gratitude
  3. Accept compliments with Grace
  4. Stop Trask Talkin’
  5. Release Perfection
  6. The Domino Effect
  7. Do a Good Qualities Inventory

Don’t overwhelm yourself by trying to do them all. Don’t do a disservice to yourself by ignoring this list. 

Pick one or two to work on at a time. Reward yourself when you feel you are making progress.

I’ve included some fun assignments to help the practice stick.

In the comments section below let me know which Self-Esteem Practice you decided to work on. 

What is your biggest Self-esteem challenge?

My name is Nick Grimshawe and I help people seeking to live extraordinary lives to use the tools of affirmations, gratitude, mindfulness, and Meditation to live the life they envision. I share one new video a week on one of those topics. Wednesdays I do a Facebook Live at 2 PM eastern. Each week I include a free piece of content either a check sheet cheat sheet or resource to help you move forward with your adventure. You can connect to me on social media through the links below.

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